Respect Training For Puppies: 30 Seconds to a Calm, Polite, Well-Behaved Puppy

By Michele Welton, Dog Trainer, Breed Selection Consultant, Author of 15 Dog Books

30 seconds to a calm, polite, well-behaved puppy? Really?

Yes, 30 seconds. Bear with me for a moment, and I'll explain. :)

Puppy and stopwatch

30 seconds.... the clock is ticking.... what is your pup learning right now?

Some people think that obedience training is the key to making a puppy well-behaved.

They hope that by taking their puppy to a one-hour obedience class each week, and then practicing the commands for another hour each night, their pup will be well-behaved.

But the truth is that very little obedience training needs to be done with a puppy to get him to be well-behaved.

That's right. Very little obedience training.

Keep in mind that I've instructed obedience classes for over 35 years, so I certainly wouldn't say that unless it was true.

The truth is that what a puppy needs most is to be lived with properly. Living with a puppy properly includes some obedience training, yes. But teaching obedience commands like "Sit" or "Stay" only influences about 20% of the way your puppy ends up behaving.

On the other hand, how you live with the puppy around the house on a daily basis influences 80% of his behavior.

And that's where the 30 seconds to a calm, polite, well-behaved puppy comes in!

Puppy training is really about Teachable Moments – very short moments – all through the day

Naughty puppy chewing on yarn

For this behavior, you'll want to give Puppy a thumbs-down....

You train your puppy in quick moments throughout the day as he tries out various behaviors and you give either a thumbs-up or a thumbs-down.

  • Those quick interactions around the house, outside in the yard, feeding and grooming and taking your puppy for a walk, determine how your puppy will turn out.
  • Those quick interactions are how your puppy learns how high (or low) your expectations are, and whether your rules carry any weight or you're just blowing smoke.
  • Those quick interactions are how you mold your puppy into a calm, polite, well-behaved dog.... or an excitable, disrespectful, misbehaving dog.

Those quick interactions take only 30 seconds.
Often far less than 30 seconds.

A perfect example from my own family....

One of my current dogs is a Poodle; another is a Chihuahua. The Poodle is very smart and learns quickly – she knows about a hundred commands. The Chihuahua is not very smart and learns more slowly – she knows six commands.

Yet both dogs are equally housebroken, equally attentive and obedient, equally calm and well-behaved, equally trustworthy with other people and other animals.

Because they were both raised right, you see. When they were puppies, I used every 30 second opportunity I could spare....

  1. To show them what they should be doing from the moment they woke up in the morning to the moment they went to sleep at night. I filled their days with predictable routines so they learned exactly how I expected them to live with me.

    Whether they were eating a meal, getting brushed, going out to potty, playing a game with me, or going for a walk – I had a routine for everything. Predictable structure is so important to dogs!

  2. I set firm boundaries that certain behaviors were not allowed. Dogs want to know what they should do, but also what they shouldn't do.
  3. And I established the right human-canine relationship in which I was the calm, confident, trusted leader and they were the relaxed, secure followers.

If you do just those three things with your puppy, you'll have very few problems with him. Even if he knows only a few obedience commands, he'll turn into a great adult dog.

On the other hand, so many people take their puppy to a year's worth of obedience classes, only to become frustrated because he is still chewing things, jumping on people, pulling on the leash, and barking.

That's because in obedience class, owners are not taught how to interact with their puppy around the house every day. And it's those daily interactions that make or break how your puppy turns out.

Puppies learn things every minute they're awake

Puppies learn all the time. You can't stop them from learning things.

Every time you do something with your puppy, he learns something about you. Every time he tries a behavior, he learns something from your reaction.... or your non-reaction.

The question is, WHAT is your pup learning?

Here are some examples of common behaviors that puppies learn from your reaction or non-reaction:

  • "Barking gets me out of my crate."
  • "Whining pitifully makes people give me things from their dinner plate."
  • "The kids keep chewable action toys in their bedrooms."
  • "The bathroom wastebasket includes used tissues I can shred and swallow."
  • "The laundry room is full of smelly underwear I can chew on."

    Puppy chewing up his owner's house

    "Hi! I'm done fixing your living room! Can I have a go at the master bedroom next?"

  • "The stuffing comes out of cushions so easily!"
  • "Jumping on people makes them pet me."
  • "If I don't want to give up my toy, I can clamp down on it with my teeth and hold on."
  • "Chomping on people's fingers is great fun."
  • "I can run away from people pretty fast!"
  • "When people reach toward my collar, I can dodge them for quite some time!"
  • "Pushing my head into someone's lap makes them pet me."
  • "Pulling on the leash makes people follow wherever I want to go."
  • "If I don't want my nails clipped or my teeth brushed, I can make it stop by squirming and struggling."

Puppies learn things even while you're sleeping!

Say you're asleep and your pup is wandering around the house. He finds the bowl of potato chips you left on the coffee table, within easy reach of his paws.

Did you just teach him something? Heck, yes! You taught him that nighttime is not a time to sleep, but to search for food.

You taught him that food is fair game if he can reach it. You taught him that you can't correct him when you're not present.

See how much you taught him, in 30 seconds, while you were sleeping?

In all my years of experience as an obedience instructor, competitive trainer, and canine behavioral consultant, I can assure you that dog training is much less about the teaching of commands.... and much more about how you live with your dog.

Virtually ALL puppy behaviors (good and bad) are created by the way you live with your puppy.

What you do with your pup.... what you don't do with your pup.... what you allow him to do....these are all messages to your puppy.

He soaks those messages up like a sponge, and THAT is what dictates how he will behave in your family. Not a bunch of obedience commands.

Send the right messages and you will have no problems with your pup. Send the wrong messages and you will have problems. It's that simple.

So if you have a puppy between 2 and 18 months old (yes, most 18-month-olds are still puppies), you should start immediately managing his daily life in your household so that he learns:

  • that "these" are the behaviors you expect him to do
  • that "those" are the behaviors you won't allow him to do
  • and that you are in charge of deciding which behaviors he must (and mustn't) do
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Copyright 2019; 307 pages

My book, Respect Training for Puppies: 30 Seconds to a Calm, Polite, Well-Behaved Puppy, is the only training program you will ever need for raising your puppy.

I will show you which behaviors you should expect your puppy to do – and how to teach those behaviors and make sure that he does them.... every time.

I'll show you which behaviors you should stop your puppy from doing – and how to stop him.

And I'll show you how to communicate to your puppy that you are in charge of everything. Puppies love this because then they don't have to be responsible for constant decision making.

You'll learn how to teach your puppy exactly what he must and mustn't do, in quick teachable moments throughout the day. 30 seconds here, 30 seconds there, whenever and wherever those opportunities pop up.

If your dog is over 18 months, you should get the Adult Dog version of this book. It's the same book, exact same program – you don't need both books!

In Respect Training for Puppies, your puppy will learn these 21 skills:

  1. Don't repeat a behavior when the word "No" is attached to it. See Chapter 5.
  2. Repeat a behavior when the word "Good" is attached to it. I'll show you exactly how to do that. See Chapter 8.
  3. Be calm indoors – no rough play, vigorous games, or racing around indoors. See Chapter 9.
  4. Walk nicely on the leash, with the leash loose – don't pull. See Chapters 10-11.
  5. Go into his crate or pen when told, and stay quietly. See Chapter 12.
  6. Wait inside the door or gate, even when it's open, until given permission to go through. See Chapter 14.
  7. Go to his "place" (dog bed) on command, and stay there. See Chapter 15.
  8. Come when called. See Chapter 17.
  9. Take food gently from your hand. See Chapter 18.
  10. At meal time, wait politely while the meal is prepared. Sit before the bowl goes down. Eat promptly. No food guarding. See Chapter 19.
  11. Where to sleep, and not sleep. See Chapter 20.
  12. Don't demand attention all the time – don't be pushy. That's enough is an important lesson for a dog to learn. See Chapter 21.
  13. Stop barking when told. Be quiet when left home alone. See Chapter 22.
  14. Greet people politely – no jumping. See Chapter 23.
  15. Don't rush the doorbell – alerting is fine, craziness is not. See Chapter 24.
  16. Sit, and stay sitting. See Chapter 29.
  17. Accept handling. Stay still for brushing, bathing, clipping nails. See Chapter 30.
  18. Give or drop whatever is in his mouth when told. See Chapter 31.
  19. Potty training: where to go to the bathroom. See Chapters 32-40.
  20. Interact politely with (or ignore) strangers and other animals. No jumping at them, barking at them, or lunging at them. See Chapters 41-42.
  21. Be respectful of other pets. "Take turns" when being given treats and attention. No bickering, pestering, pushiness, or jealousy. See Chapters 44-45.

Just follow my directions in Respect Training for Puppies, and your puppy will learn to do everything in the list above!

Line of cute puppies of different breeds

German Shepherd, Puggle, Sheltie, Labrador Retriever, Beagle, Bernese Mtn Dog, Dachshund.... Respect Training teaches every puppy of every breed to be calm, polite, and well-behaved.

Oh, yes, one more thing....

Raising a puppy isn't just about training.

Raising a puppy is also about feeding and health care. What you feed your pup can affect not only his health, but also his behavior – for better or for worse. His grooming and health care can affect his behavior, too.

I've written a feeding and health care book called 11 Things You Must Do Right To Keep Your Dog Healthy and Happy.

I'd like to give you that book absolutely free when you order Respect Training for Puppies. Your pup's future health and longevity depends on the way you're raising him today.... and there are 11 things you must get right. I want to give you this book for free.

In fact, I want to give you 7 free books.

Seven free bonus books that will help you care for your puppy

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Bonus Book # 1.... Feeding, vaccinations, neutering, physical exercise, mental exercise, grooming, safety, much more! Follow the 11 Things You Must Do Right and your puppy should live a long, healthy life and seldom need to visit the vet.

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Respect Training for Puppies plus the 7 bonus books make up a premium package that covers all the bases of training and caring for your puppy.

That's why I want you to have them ALL.... for $24.

I charge so little for my books because I know they will make your puppy's life better..... and that will make YOUR life better. I would much rather have many owners read my books for a lower price than have fewer owners read them for a higher price. My compensation would be the same either way, but at the lower price more owners and dogs benefit.

30-Day Money-Back Guarantee

Money back guaranteeI offer a 30-day money back guarantee. Plain and simple, if you're not satisfied with my book within 30 days, I'll refund your money. I'm a respected author, and I want you to be happy!

I'm absolutely confident that you will be. Dog owners have been buying my books online since 2002 and my refund rate is an infinitesimal 0.1%. That means 999 people out of a thousand are satisfied. I'm pretty happy about that!

Well-behaved Samoyed puppy

When your puppy respects you, he will pay attention to you and follow your directions. All the time.

To sum up....

Respect Training for Puppies: 30 Seconds to a Calm, Polite, Well-Behaved Puppy is extremely clear and easy to read.

Everything your puppy needs to know to be a top-notch canine citizen is included.

Everything is laid out for you.... what to do.... what not to do.

If your pup is over 18 months, you should get the Adult Dog version of this book. It's the same book, exact same program – you don't need both books!

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