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Teach Your Pup to be Calm Indoors

By Michele Welton, Dog Trainer, Breed Selection Consultant, Author of 15 Dog Books


owner chasing excitable pup around the house

Racing around is fine outdoors, but not indoors. Unfortunately this owner isn't helping matters by chasing the puppy, which makes the owner just as excitable as the pup himself.

Calmness – both physical and mental calmness – is the foundation for all training.

It's much harder to get good behavior from a puppy who is excitable and reactive. By excitable and reactive, I mean a pup who is easily aroused, quick to respond to whatever he sees or hears, and doesn't relax unless he's asleep.

For example, an excitable or reactive puppy might:

  • race around the house
  • play roughly with your other pet(s), wrestling and chasing
  • bark when he hears the neighbor's dog bark
  • leap on and off the furniture
  • bark out the window at people or other dogs
  • jump on people
  • bark at the TV
  • run away from you when you try to get hold of him
  • bark at the vacuum cleaner
  • run through doors ahead of you
  • go cuckoo when you pick up the leash or get his food bowl out of the cupboard
  • make so much noise when someone knocks at the door that you find yourself trying to read the person's lips while you're also trying to grab hold of the pup

Cairn TerrierWhy are some dogs calmer and some dogs more excitable?

Age  is a factor – young dogs tend to be more excitable than seniors. Heredity  is also a factor – some breeds tend to be more excitable than others.

But excitability is also a learned  behavior that has been (unintentionally) encouraged and rewarded by the owner.

For example...

You pick up the leash and your puppy barks and leaps with joy. You struggle to attach it as he squirms and wriggles. It's hard to open the door when he's jumping against it. Finally it opens a crack and the pup squeezes through and surges past you onto the porch. As you struggle to close and lock the door, the pup is jumping around and pulling on the leash. He spies another dog coming down the sidewalk and lunges forward, barking, his toenails scrabbling on the porch. Yup, time for another "peaceful" walk!

Remember, dogs learn from patterns. They memorize them. If your pup goes crazy and you follow that up with a walk, the pattern you're teaching is: "Go crazy → go for a walk". No, no, no! Excitability should not be rewarded.

Calmness starts with YOU

From a dog's viewpoint, the leader sets the emotional tone for the family group. Interact with your puppy in a calm, deliberate manner. Don't rush around, gesture wildly, shout, or grab at him.

So be aware of your body language – it's how canines "read" and draw conclusions about you. Your puppy expects a leader to project calm confidence. Deliver that body language and the pup feels satisfied that he had you "pegged" right, which makes him feel more settled and relaxed.

Calm handling can transform an excitable puppy.

yellow LabradorWhen I meet a new client, I stand back at first and just observe. Typically their pup will pull on the leash, bark at whatever, jump on the owner, pretty much hyped-up and out of control.

Then I approach. I don't speak to the puppy or even look at him. As I talk casually with the owner, I reach over and quietly take the leash. I still don't speak to the puppy or even look at him. I just keep talking to the owner, and occasionally I give a leash correction when the pup jumps around with excitability or barks.

Within a minute or two, most pups stop jumping, stop pulling, stop barking. A minute more, and most pups are standing or sitting or lying down quietly.

Same puppy. And without saying anything to him.

An excited dog can often be transformed into a more relaxed dog in a matter of minutes, using only confident body language and proper leash communication. Yes, you can use the leash to carry on a conversation with your pup.

The first step to indoor calmness and good behavior

My training program shows you how to stop excitable and reactive behaviors such as barking, rushing the doorbell, jumping on people, pulling on the leash, and dashing through doors and gates ahead of you.

Pug pupThe FIRST  step to indoor calmness and better behavior is to control your puppy's movements in the house.

The biggest mistake owners make with a puppy is giving him too much freedom, too soon.

Being loose in the house should always be a privilege   that is s-l-o-w-ly earned – after  the puppy matures, is 100% housebroken, is calm and quiet, has learned all the rules and routines of your household, and has no behavior issues. All of my adult dogs are loose indoors; NONE of my puppies are.

There's no reason that a puppy needs to be wandering around the house. That simply gives him more opportunities to practice undesirable behaviors. Pups who practice undesirable behaviors end up with bad habits.

I limit a puppy's movements indoors until:

  • he has been in my household for at least 3 months, AND is at least 10 months old AND 100% housebroken, AND follows all of the routines of my household.

When a pup meets those criteria, I start letting him wander around a few rooms when I'm home to supervise.  When he reaches 18-24 months old, I start testing to see if he can be free in the house when I'm gone.

You might think that's a long time to wait. But your pup is going to be with you for 10 to 15 years. Surely you can afford to be ultra-vigilant for just 1 to 2 of those years, thereby ensuring that all the remaining years will be problem-free.

light brown spaniel lying downHow to control your puppy's movements indoors

  • If he is not 100% housebroken, he should be in a crate or wire pen whenever you're not interacting with him.
  • If he is 100% housebroken, he should be restricted (with portable baby gates) to the same room you're in. Or keep him on a leash so he must follow you around the house as you do chores, or hang out with you while you watch TV or read a book or answer your email. All of which encourages calmness and the right leader-follower relationship.

A puppy with a leash on should be supervised at all times so he can't get the leash tangled around anything. Never leave a dog alone with a leash on!

What your pup should do when he's on leash indoors

If you're walking around, he should follow you without pulling on the leash.

If you're sitting down, place a comft dog bed on the floor near your feet. Put a safe chew toy like a Nylabone® or Kong® toy on the bed.

Your puppy can choose to:

  • lie down on the bed or floor
  • chew on the toy
  • wander around within the length of the 6-foot leash
  • or just stand there looking around

Praise good behavior. If he is doing any of the above, give him a quiet, approving "Good boy."

Avoid touching and eye contact. Puppies find it harder to relax if you're touching them or looking at them. Be aware of what your pup is doing, but don't stare at him.

Correct any behavior you don't want repeated:

  • Pulling on the leash
  • Barking
  • Jumping on you or anyone else
  • Trying to chase the cat
  • Chewing on the leash, the carpet, or the leg of your chair

Your job is to set consistent boundaries. "Yes" to this. "No" to that. When your puppy sees you doing that, he recognizes that you are the trusted leader and he is the trusting follower.

My book covertraining program is for puppies 2 to 18 months old. It explains, step by step:

  • How to teach your pup to be calm and to look to you for guidance, direction, and permission.
  • How to establish good patterns, routines, and boundaries that govern everything your pup does.
  • How to make yourself important – the most important thing – in your puppy’s life. How to show your pup the clear, black-and-white rules and routines he is to follow. And how to make sure he does.

Michele Welton with BuffyAbout the author: Michele Welton has over 40 years of experience as a Dog Trainer, Dog Breed Consultant, and founder of three Dog Training Centers. An expert researcher and author of 15 books about dogs, she loves helping people choose, train, and care for their dogs.


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