Respect Training For Adult Dogs: 30 Seconds to a Calm, Polite, Well-Behaved Dog

By Michele Welton, Dog Trainer, Breed Selection Consultant, Author of 15 Dog Books

30 seconds to a calm, polite, well-behaved dog? Really?

Yes, 30 seconds. Bear with me for a moment, and I'll explain. :)

Dogs and stopwatch

30 seconds.... the clock is ticking.... what is your dog learning right now?

Some people think that obedience training is the key to making a dog well-behaved.

They hope that by taking their dog to a one-hour obedience class each week, and then practicing the commands for another hour each night, their dog will be well-behaved.

But the truth is that very little obedience training needs to be done with a dog to get him to be well-behaved.

That's right. Very little obedience training.

Keep in mind that I've instructed obedience classes for over 35 years, so I certainly wouldn't say that unless it was true.

The truth is that what a dog needs most is to be lived with properly. Living with a dog properly includes some obedience training, yes. But teaching obedience commands like "Sit" or "Stay" only influences about 20% of the way your dog ends up behaving.

On the other hand, how you live with the dog around the house on a daily basis influences 80% of his behavior.

And that's where the 30 seconds to a calm, polite, well-behaved dog comes in!

Dog training is really about Teachable Moments – very short moments – all through the day

Naughty dog tearing apart a pillow

For this behavior, you'll want to give Jake a thumbs-down....

You train your dog in quick moments throughout the day as he tries out various behaviors and you give either a thumbs-up or a thumbs-down.

  • Those quick interactions around the house, outside in the yard, feeding and grooming and taking your dog for a walk, determine how your dog will turn out.
  • Those quick interactions are how your dog learns how high (or low) your expectations are, and whether your rules carry any weight or you're just blowing smoke.
  • Those quick interactions are how you mold your dog into a calm, polite, well-behaved dog.... or an excitable, disrespectful, misbehaving dog.

Those quick interactions take only 30 seconds.
Often far less than 30 seconds.

What should you do during those quick moments, those quick interactions?

  1. You show your dog what he should be doing from the moment he wakes up in the morning to the moment he goes to sleep at night. You fill his days with predictable routines so he learns exactly how you expect him to live with you.

    Whether he's eating a meal, getting brushed, going out to potty, playing a game with you, or going for a walk – you should have a routine for everything. Predictable structure is so important to dogs!

  2. You set firm boundaries that certain behaviors are not allowed. Dogs want to know what they should do, but also what they shouldn't do.
  3. And you establish the right human-canine relationship in which you are the calm, confident, trusted leader and he is the calm, confident, trusting follower.

If you do just those three things with your dog, you'll have very few problems with him. Even if he knows only a few obedience commands, he'll be a great dog.

On the other hand, many people dutifully take their dog to a year's worth of obedience classes, only to become frustrated because he is still chewing things, jumping on people, pulling on the leash, stealing food, and barking.

That's because in obedience class, owners are not taught how to interact with their dog around the house every day. And it's those daily interactions that make or break how your dog turns out.

Dogs learn things every minute they're awake

Dogs learn all the time. You can't stop them from learning things.

Every time you do something with your dog, he learns something about you. Every time he tries a behavior, he learns something from your reaction.... or your non-reaction.

The question is, WHAT is your dog learning?

Here are some examples of behaviors that dogs learn from your reaction or non-reaction:

  • "Barking gets me out of my crate."
  • "Whining makes people give me things from their dinner plate."
  • "Behind the sofa is a secret place to pee."
  • "The bathroom wastebasket includes used tissues I can shred and swallow."
  • "The laundry room is full of smelly underwear I can chew on."

    Puppy chewing up his owner's house

    "Hi! I'm done fixing your living room! Can I have a go at the master bedroom next?"

  • "The stuffing comes out of cushions so easily!"
  • "Jumping on people makes them pet me."
  • "If I don't want to give up my toy, I can clamp down on it with my teeth and hold on."
  • "I can run away from people pretty fast!"
  • "When people reach toward my collar, I can dodge them for quite some time!"
  • "Pushing my head into someone's lap makes them pet me."
  • "Pulling on the leash makes people follow me."
  • "If I don't want my nails clipped or my teeth brushed, I can make it stop by squirming and struggling."

Dogs learn things even while you're sleeping!

Say you're asleep and your dog is wandering around the house. He finds the bowl of potato chips you left on the coffee table, within easy reach of his paws.

Did you just teach him something? Heck, yes! You taught him that nighttime is not a time to sleep, but to search for food.

You taught him that food is fair game if he can reach it. You taught him that you can't correct him when you're not present.

See how much you taught him while you were sleeping?

Irish Terrier stealing food

Obedience commands won't stop this. Proper management and respect training will.

Virtually ALL dog behaviors (good and bad) are created by the way you live with your dog.

What you do with him.... what you don't do with him.... what you allow him to do.... these are all messages to your dog. He soaks those messages up like a sponge, and THAT is what dictates how he will behave in your family. Not a bunch of obedience commands.

Send the right messages and you will have no problems with your dog. Send the wrong messages and you will have problems. It's that simple.

So if you'd like your dog's behavior to be better – in any way – you should start immediately managing his daily life in your household so that he learns:

  • that "these" are the behaviors you expect him to do
  • that "those" are the behaviors you won't allow him to do
  • and that you are in charge of deciding which behaviors he must (and mustn't) do
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Copyright 2019; 307 pages

My book, Respect Training for Adult Dogs: 30 Seconds to a Calm, Polite, Well-Behaved Dog, is the only training program you will ever need for training your dog.

I'll show you which behaviors you should expect your dog to do – and how to teach those behaviors and make sure that he does them.... every time.

I'll show you which behaviors you should stop your dog from doing – and how to stop him.

And I'll show you how to communicate to your dog that you are in charge of everything. Dogs love this because then they don't have to be responsible for constant decision making.

You'll learn how to teach your dog exactly what he must and mustn't do, in quick teachable moments throughout the day. 30 seconds here, 30 seconds there, whenever and wherever those opportunities pop up.

If your dog is under 18 months, you should get the Puppy version of this book. It's the same book, exact same program – you don't need both books!

In Respect Training for Adult Dogs, your dog will learn these 21 skills:

  1. Don't repeat a behavior when the word "No" is attached to it. See Chapter 5.
  2. Repeat a behavior when the word "Good" is attached to it. I'll show you exactly how to do that. See Chapter 8.
  3. Be calm indoors – no rough play, vigorous games, or racing around indoors. See Chapter 9.
  4. Walk nicely on the leash, with the leash loose – don't pull. See Chapters 10-11.
  5. Go into his crate or pen when told, and stay quietly. See Chapter 12.
  6. Wait inside the door or gate, even when it's open, until given permission to go through. See Chapter 14.
  7. Go to his "place" (dog bed) on command, and stay there. See Chapter 15.
  8. Come when called. See Chapter 17.
  9. Take food gently from your hand. See Chapter 18.
  10. At meal time, wait politely while the meal is prepared. Sit before the bowl goes down. Eat promptly. No food guarding. See Chapter 19.
  11. Where to sleep, and not sleep. See Chapter 20.
  12. Don't demand attention all the time – don't be pushy. That's enough is an important lesson for a dog to learn. See Chapter 21.
  13. Stop barking when told. Be quiet when left home alone. See Chapter 22.
  14. Greet people politely – no jumping. See Chapter 23.
  15. Don't rush the doorbell – alerting is fine, craziness is not. See Chapter 24.
  16. Sit, and stay sitting. See Chapter 29.
  17. Accept handling. Stay still for brushing, bathing, clipping nails. See Chapter 30.
  18. Give or drop whatever is in his mouth when told. See Chapter 31.
  19. Potty training: where to go to the bathroom. See Chapters 32-40.
  20. Interact politely with (or ignore) strangers and other animals. No jumping at them, barking at them, or lunging at them. See Chapters 41-42.
  21. Be respectful of other pets. "Take turns" when being given treats and attention. No bickering, pestering, pushiness, or jealousy. See Chapters 44-45.

Just follow my directions in Respect Training for Adult Dogs, and your dog will learn to do everything in the list above!

Line of dogs of different breeds and sizes

Respect Training teaches dogs of all breeds and all sizes to be calm and polite. My Chihuahua is just as well-behaved as my German Shepherd.

Oh, yes, one more thing....

Raising a dog isn't just about training.

Raising a dog is also about feeding and health care. What you feed your dog can affect not only his health, but also his behavior – for better or for worse. His grooming and health care can affect his behavior, too.

I've written a feeding and health care book called 11 Things You Must Do Right To Keep Your Dog Healthy and Happy.

I'd like to give you that book absolutely free when you order Respect Training for Adult Dogs. Your dog's future health and longevity depends on the way you're raising him today.... and there are 11 things you must get right. I want to give you this book for free.

In fact, I want to give you 7 free books.

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Money back guaranteeI offer a 30-day money back guarantee. Plain and simple, if you're not satisfied with my book within 30 days, I'll refund your money. I'm a respected author, and I want you to be happy!

I'm absolutely confident that you will be. Dog owners have been buying my books online since 2002 and my refund rate is an infinitesimal 0.1%. That means 999 people out of a thousand are satisfied. I'm pretty happy about that!

Well-behaved white dog lying down

When your dog respects you, he will pay attention to you and follow your directions. All the time.

To sum up....

Respect Training for Adult Dogs: 30 Seconds to a Calm, Polite, Well-Behaved Dog is extremely clear and easy to read.

Everything your dog needs to know to be a top-notch canine citizen is included.

Everything is laid out for you.... what to do.... what not to do.

If your pup is 2 to 18 months old, you should get the Puppy version of this book. It's the same book, exact same program – you don't need both books!

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